Regarding that guy Adam…

The revelation from Adam Lambert that he is, surprise surprise, gay has given me a lot to think about, and has also sparked some interesting conversation in my home.

There has been much speculation on what his exit from the closet will mean for his career, and my first thought was that those who choose not to like Adam based solely on his sexual preference are simply ridiculous.

It’s like saying “I won’t buy your music because you like green, and I don’t.”

Or more like “I won’t watch Terminator Salvation because Christian Bale is straight.”

My 18 year old daughter is gay. I don’t talk about her as being the daughter who is gay. She is my daughter who is into building, likes video games, loves anime, is good with animals. And she prefers girls to boys.

Her sexual orientation is a part of her, but only a part of her. The same is true of Adam Lambert. He is an extremely talented young man who happens to be gay. Whether or not you purchase his album(s) should depend on if you like his music, instead of if you like who he sleeps with.

Many people will say that they can’t buy his music because his choices are immoral. No… murdering someone is immoral. Having sex with someone you are in a committed relationship with is not immoral. And I would argue that there is no choice in being gay. Homosexuality is just a piece of a person’s biology.

Yesterday, I brought this up with my daughter. She said, “While I admire him (Adam) for doing what he did, I don’t think it was very wise.” She thinks him revealing that he is gay WILL hurt his career.

I wanted to deny it, to protest… simply because, in an ideal world, it wouldn’t be like that. It shouldn’t be like that now. But then I thought of a choice I made for myself, and how I do not share that choice (no, I’m not gay or bi) with the public, out of fear that it will negatively impact the readership of the M2 or my career as a writer.. . and I know that my daughter is right.

Perhaps the incredibly gifted Adam Lambert will never have a career as successful as he could. Maybe the world is ready for change, and he will. Time will tell. Meanwhile, I’ll be buying his music.

See him perform “Mad World.”

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RFD and Friends Fundraiser for Phoenix Psaltery and Sansarya

The graphic is slightly outdated (but still purdy), but the event is basically all day long, with music and an auction to support Phoenix Psaltery, who is in the ICU with serious medical problems, as well as his wife, Sansarya Caligari.

The day will begin at 9am, in the William sim. Here is the basic schedule of music and auction items.

From 9 AM till 10 AM – Cylindrian Rutabega
Auction items:
*Bliss Couture Eve Gown (Purple) by Amutey DeCuir
***limited edition 22/25*** emma:ash ~silentsparrow~
*DAZZLE: BAvarde (wine), *DAZZLE: California, *DAZZLE: Chiffon OMbre (teal)
A jewelry pack from Grateful Stryker: Silver Hoop Earrings, Ladies Diamond Stud Earrings, Short Strand Real Pearl Necklace, Ladie’s Gold Hoop Earrings, Ladie’s Gold Link Chain, Men’s Gold Link Chain.
Swimmers by Siggy Romulus
Swimmers by Siggy Romulus
Graduated Cylinder by ZATZAi Asturias
~TNZ~ Liselle Blue: Limited Release from PixelDolls
PM The Fallingbridge (Easy to Use Rezzing System) by Tya Fallingbridge
Very Large Domed Tent – PURPLE – BOXED – MOD/TRANS by Osprey Therian
Relic Fat Set

10 AM till Noon – Siggy Romulus
Auction Items:
(PixelDolls) Wrap Dress: Streamers by Nephilaine Protagonist
*BLiss Couture* – Christina Gown (Blue) by Amutey DeCuir
*DAZZLE: Dana, *DAZZLE: Deirdre – Flowy White lace skirt and sleeveless top, *DAZZLE: Elise (custard)
A jewelry pack from Grateful Stryker: Silver Hoop Earrings, Ladies Diamond Stud Earrings, Short Strand Real Pearl Necklace, Ladie’s Gold Hoop Earrings, Ladie’s Gold Link Chain, Men’s Gold Link Chain.
Swimmers by Siggy Romulus
Swimmers by Siggy Romulus
Swimmers by Siggy Romulus
Very Large Domed Tent – Brown – BOXED – MOD/TRANS by Osprey Therian
<3 LoveLace~ Demure: Rose by Nephilaine Protagonist
Two Sisters’ Bakery Gift Certificate by vivi Odets
Pixel Mode Alexa – Latte by Tya Fallingbridge
L$1000 Prim Pincher Giftcard from Nimue Jewell
AviMagic (a variety of beautiful jewelry) by Macphisto Angelus
- enkythings – Yuja II Zebra

Noon till 2 PM – aEoLus Waves
Auction Items:
(PixelDolls) Watercolor: Ruby by Nephilaine Protagonist
*Bliss Couture* – Isabella Gown by Amutey DeCuir
*DAZZLE: Elka (negative), *DAZZLE: Emmaline (ceylon), *DAZZLE: Innocence
A jewelry pack from Grateful Stryker: Silver Hoop Earrings, Ladies Diamond Stud Earrings, Short Strand Real Pearl Necklace, Ladie’s Gold Hoop Earrings, Ladie’s Gold Link Chain, Men’s Gold Link Chain.
Musical Alchemy – Gift Card – Concert Grand Piano – Persephone Milk
Swimmers by Siggy Romulus
Swimmers by Siggy Romulus
Swimmers by Siggy Romulus
aEo’s Dance Floor 2 Boxed by aEoLuS Waves
aEoMultiMedia Laptop BOX v2 by aEoLuS Waves
The Eggies Box (Cute little eggo’s that folow you.) by aEoLuS Waves
Very Large Domed Tent – Buff – BOXED – MOD/TRANS by Osprey Therian
<3 LoveLace~ Ruffle: Blue by Nephilaine Protagonist
Sirena 600 Gift Certificate (Boxed) by Natalia Zelmanov
AviMagic (a variety of beautiful jewelry) by Macphisto Angelus
- enkythings – Tagona II Snake Grey

2 PM till 4 PM – Esma Jaerls/Io Zeno
Auction items:
(PixelDolls) Romance: Red Flutter Top by Nephilaine Protagonist
*Bliss Couture* Christina Gown (Electric Purple) by Amutey DeCuir
*DAZZLE: Intime (lilac), *DAZZLE: Jean Skirts, *DAZZLE: LA Paysanne
Last Call: Veronica, Last Call: Gabrielle (Blush), Dazzle: Paon
A jewelry pack from Grateful Stryker: Silver Hoop Earrings, Ladies Diamond Stud Earrings, Short Strand Real Pearl Necklace, Ladie’s Gold Hoop Earrings, Ladie’s Gold Link Chain, Men’s Gold Link Chain.
(Caroline’s) Shooting Stars Necklace & Earrings
Musical Alchemy – Gift Card – Concert Grand Piano – Persephone Milk
Swimmers by Siggy Romulus
Swimmers by Siggy Romulus
Swimmers by Siggy Romulus
aEo’s Dance Floor 2 Boxed by aEoLuS Waves
aEoMultiMedia Laptop BOX v2 by aEoLuS Waves
The Eggies Box (Cute little eggo’s that folow you.) by aEoLuS Waves
Giant Potato on flatcar with sign by Osprey Therian
Aintree Weeping Willow Tree by Honour McMillan
AviMagic (a variety of beautiful jewelry) by Macphisto Angelus
S&S Gestures Gift Certificate by Raubin Sachertorte
- enkythings – Yuja II Cheetah by Enktan Gully

4PM till 6 PM – Lucifer Baphomet
Auction Items:
Art by Ilianexsi Sojourner
(PixelDolls) Empire Crinoline Dress: Red by Nephilaine Protagonist
Blaze L$1000 Store Card
Shiny Things L$1000 Store Card
*DAZZLE: Stunning (burma ruby), *DAZZLE: Titania (flirt), *DAZZLE: Trendy Girl
Last call Starley 2 mini dress set for auction, *Dazzle* Valerie, *Dazzle* Dana
A jewelry pack from Grateful Stryker: Silver Hoop Earrings, Ladies Diamond Stud Earrings, Short Strand Real Pearl Necklace, Ladie’s Gold Hoop Earrings, Ladie’s Gold Link Chain, Men’s Gold Link Chain.
(Caroline’s) Gold & Silver Circles Collection
Musical Alchemy – Gift Card – Concert Grand Piano – Persephone Milk
AMBIANCE Henna Collection Living Room Set P2 by Desiree Bisiani
Trompe Loeil Gift Certificate – $L15,000 by Cory Edo
Swimmers by Siggy Romulus
Swimmers by Siggy Romulus
Swimmers by Siggy Romulus
aEo’s Dance Floor 2 Boxed by aEoLuS Waves
aEoMultiMedia Laptop BOX v2 by aEoLuS Waves
The Eggies Box (Cute little eggo’s that folow you.) by aEoLuS Waves
A2NZ Phoenix “P2″ Rubber Cloak by Raindrop Drinkwater
Affinity Mody Auction (1 week)
Paeoti_Brocade Contessa Salsa Set_Blue by from paeoti Pomeray
S&S Gestures Gift Certificate by Raubin Sachertorte
- enkythings – Tagona II Snake Red
Added: 100s of products from Elegance Hats by Morrigan Hyun

6 PM till 8 PM – Lecktor Hannibal
Auction Items:
Art by Ilianexsi Sojourner
(PixelDolls) Empire Crinoline Dress: Ocean by Nephilaine Protagonist
*Bliss Couture* Eve Gown (Blue) by Amutey DeCuir
*DAZZLE: Tueuse, *DAZZLE: Stunning (burma ruby), *LAST CALL Catwalk Collection: Irina
Dazzle (3): *DAZZLE: Deesse (libre), *DAZZLE: Eurydice (fuschia), *DAZZLE: Seduire (wine)
A jewelry pack from Grateful Stryker: Silver Hoop Earrings, Ladies Diamond Stud Earrings, Short Strand Real Pearl Necklace, Ladie’s Gold Hoop Earrings, Ladie’s Gold Link Chain, Men’s Gold Link Chain.
(Caroline’s) Athena Pearls in White.
Musical Alchemy – Gift Card – Concert Grand Piano – Persephone Milk
Trompe Loeil Gift Certificate – $L15,000 by Cory Edo
Swimmers by Siggy Romulus
Swimmers by Siggy Romulus
Swimmers by Siggy Romulus
aEo’s Dance Floor 2 Boxed by aEoLuS Waves
aEo MultiMedia System v2 BOX by aEoLuS Waves
aEoMultiMedia Laptop BOX v2 by aEoLuS Waves
The Eggies Box (Cute little eggo’s that folow you.) by aEoLuS Waves\
Paeoti_ Sweetheart Dress (1) by from paeoti Pomeray
S&S Gestures Gift Certificate by Raubin Sachertorte
- enkythings – Talyn Navy Goldheel
A custom outfit in full permissions to the highest bidder, by Nephilaine Protagonist
Added: One black and white half page ad in the special SLCC printed edition (worth over $400USD).

8 PM till 10 PM – Vivianne Draper
Auction items:
Art by Ilianexsi Sojourner
(PixelDolls) Cheongsam: Dragon by Nephilaine Protagonist
*LAST CALL Catwalk Collection: Marguerite – Short & Long, *LAST CALL: Erin, *LAST CALL: Gabrielle (blush)
*Dazzle Babydolls, Formal, and Daniela
*LAST CALL: Greta, *LAST CALL: Kamryn, *LAST CALL: Magdalena, *LAST CALL: Nathalie II, *LAST CALL: Yelena
A jewelry pack from Grateful Stryker: Silver Hoop Earrings, Ladies Diamond Stud Earrings, Short Strand Real Pearl Necklace, Ladie’s Gold Hoop Earrings, Ladie’s Gold Link Chain, Men’s Gold Link Chain.
(Caroline’s) Down the Back Black Pearl Necklace and Earrings
Musical Alchemy – Gift Card – Concert Grand Piano – Persephone Milk
Swimmers by Siggy Romulus
Swimmers by Siggy Romulus
Swimmers by Siggy Romulus
aEo’s Dance Floor 2 Boxed by aEoLuS Waves
aEo MultiMedia System v2 BOX by aEoLuS Waves
aEoMultiMedia Laptop BOX v2 by aEoLuS Waves
The Eggies Box (Cute little eggo’s that folow you.) by aEoLuS Waves
NYMPHETAMINE_GIFT CERTIFICATE $1000
‘ON Purple Latex Limited Edition Kimono (boxed) by Zorena Deckard
- enkythings – Talyn Brown Silverheel

10 PM till Mignight – Augustus Bainbridge
Auction Items: Misc. items
(This time will be used to auction off items I forgot, last minute donations and things we ran out of time to auction off in other time slots).
Any changes to the line up will be posted here, as well as on the Second Survivor forums, on SLU, on the SL forums, and various blogs.

I will host the auction, on my alt Fundraising Moxie.

The power of SL

I was excited to hear the recent announcement of the Linden Prize. I feel it will do some good for humanity in general and Second Life specifically.

Since you may not know exactly what I’m talking about .. Mitch Kapor told those at the closing ceremony of the SL5B that $10,000 in USD (paid in Linden Dollars) would be awarded once a year to those who accomplished the mission of  elevating the human condition by using Second Life.

From a PR standpoint, this is quite brilliant. Since SL first started to get press, the media has focused on real life companies moving into Second Life, or — what’s wrong in SL: the gambling, sex, ageplay, etc.

Forget the churches, communities, friendships, love, fundraising and support found and offered via Second Life. Forget the lives that are both lived and DIED in that virtual realm. Those stories don’t sell.

So media has concentrated on the shocking and scandalous in order to meet their profit margin. This prize, however, is a way to say, “Hey, SL can be more than that.”

It’s an important message, especially in a time when corporations’ interest in establishing a presence in SL is diminishing. To sustain SL, there has to be an awareness that it’s not JUST for sex, fast cash or marketing.

Linden Lab wants people to know that SL can be just as real as the chair you sit in, the food you eat, the house you live in. It’s not all just fun and games.

I have always seen the power of Second Life to transform lives. After all, it’s done that for me. When I started SL, I was in an abusive relationship, living in little more than a shack, with no drivers’ license, and even no car to drive. Now I’m out of the relationship, in a brand new house, with a car, and a license to drive.

Those are merely the material things that SL has given me. What’s more important, and immeasurable, is the self-confidence and skill set I’ve developed.

As a psychology major, I find the uses of Second Life to better lives to be incredibly fascinating. I’ll be fleshing out some ideas and theories in the next few weeks, so please check back.

The fun continues

I had left an offline message for the creator of the Elf Clan group. I asked Wayfinder Wishbringer if Eren was his employee, and if so, I wished to lodge a complaint.

His response:

[23:48] Wayfinder Wishbringer: Katt, I am fully aware of the dealings between you and Eren and as Founder of Elf Clan I have about the same postion toward you as you, as Founder of your paper had toward Eren:  I know how to deal with people like you.  Bite me and take your piddling, immature, drama-queen attitude elswhere.  I came online just to deal with this matter.  Consider it dealt.

[23:49] Wayfinder Wishbringer: You were contacted by an advertiser with concern over an advertising issue.  Your response was threatening, insulting and abusive.  Elf Clan shall have no further dealings with the Messenger.  That is MY decision.  End of discussion.

In reading the e-mails by Eren, I was struck by the similarities between Eren and Wayfinder’s writing style and word choice, as well as the fact that we had had the same exact problems with Wayfinder in the past. When I got these IMs from him, I was convinced. I let him know about the “Spoonful of Sugar” post.

His reply? [23:54] Wayfinder Wishbringer: Very well.. now it gets legal

I simply replied that it sounded fun. Sorry, I am not intimidated by threats. I’m sure that was frustrating for him, as he typed in a rather lengthy reply:

[23:57] Wayfinder Wishbringer: You broke the first rule of journalism:  never take personal issues public.  This was a private business matter.  You took it public.  You think you’re the only person with a blog?  We are a group.  You’re supposed to be a professional paper.  I assure you Ms. Kongo, I am just as capable of writing an article as you… but you have the disadvantage of being a professional paper looking like an idiot.

[23:58] Wayfinder Wishbringer: So if this is how you wish to do things, I’m going to handle the matter very simply… by publishing the fact that a supposedly professional newspaper took a personal snit public.  Enjoy your evening.

And then my reply:

It was not a personal snit. It was an attack on us, followed by an empty threat, led by YOU, who was using an alt to deal with us instead of your main, because we have had exactly these problems with you in the past. The blog is where I express the OPINIONS I keep out of the factual accountings in the newspaper. Don’t tell me about the rules of journalism. I know them far better than you ever will.

As I said, I’m not involved in any of the Elven communities. Really, the only thing I know about them is that the sims are some of the most beautiful ones in Second Life. But apparently, one of the sims we have covered previously is one in direct competition with the Elf Clan.

I guess Eren isn’t content to slur only the M2:

One more response Phoenix, then I’m going to let you folks go your way and we’ll go ours, and good riddance.  The only turmoil caused within Elf Clan… has been directly from Elf Circle.  It resulted in the founder of Elf Circle being banned from our group for misappropriation of group funds and lands, and several of their officers receiving the same treatment.  If you folks were the reporters you claimed to be… you’d be aware of that.

Elf Clan now is one of the largest fantasy groups on Second Life.  We’ve grown from one to eight sims in one year and we are known for our friendliness to visitors and SL newbies.  Our group is also one of the most harmonious, peaceful and drama-free groups I’ve come across on Second Life.  The only reason we have ever had any turmoil in the group… was from dealing with people like you and Katt.  And that’s the bottom-line truth.

Drama free? I doubt that…

A Spoonful of Sugar

Another week of layout is finished, and I’m relaxing, glad to be able to work on freelance writings and my books. Late this evening, Phoenix told me that one of the advertisers was complaining about his/her ad. My time for relaxing was apparently over.

P2 copied me on the e-mail, and I was shocked. This person, Eren Padar, accused the M2 of showing favoritism to some other Elven group, among other things, and was just downright nasty. Read for yourself:

Phoenix, I just checked out our ad in the Metaverse Messengers.  To be plain, I am very disappointed.

I followed MM instructions specifically, and sent a high-rez JPG ad as per instructions– to exact measurements.  I just checked the ad copy I sent you, and it is pristine.  Why then, does the ad look out of focus and blurry in your magazine?

I also notice that in the same issue, an Elf Circle sim wins “sim of the week”, plus a lengthy article, and I am once again struck by the same thing that has hit me in the past:  Metaverse Messenger is obviously not the place for Elf Clan to advertise.

I’m the Market Manager for Elf Clan Fantasy Market.  We had planned a significant set of ads over the next year.  In addition I had planned personal advertising for my company Dragon Forge.   All such plans are cancelled.  In the future, we will take our advertising business to other SL magazines.

Phoenix wrote replied with a very nice response. I was and am very proud of him. It has to be frustrating to deal with someone who appears to be completely unreasonable. His reply:

Eren, I’m not sure what to tell you. You seem to be accusing us of some sort of favoritism toward Elf Circle, which is bunk. Sim of the Week is selected by a dedicated staff and neither Katt nor I have anything to do with that process.

As far as the ad is concerned, there is always some degradation of images when saving to a PDF, unless you are willing to accept a gargantuan (and I’m talking 50 MB +) final PDF file, so yes, your ad will not always look quite as crisp as it does initially. We process everyone’s ads in an identical fashion.

Sorry you feel the way you do, but I also feel your anger is misdirected.

I wish you the best in everything that Elf Clan does.

P2

Eren again replied, but apparently, accusing us of favoritism wasn’t enough. He/she had to add to that by saying that we altered the ad.

Well,sorry but I’m looking through an entire issue of ads and they all look fine, and I get to ours and it’s JPEG reduced blotchy.  Only one I saw in the entire zine that looked fuzzy and bad.  Since I sent you a to-the-pixel measured ad in perfect condition, “pdf format” doesn’t explain the mess.’

If there’s no favoritism for Elf Circle… glad to hear it.  Not sure the evidence supports the claim, but whatever.  The only evidence I’m really concerned with is the quality of our advertisement… and I’ve been professionally involved in advertisement in RL for too many years to believe that’s just how it came out.  Sorry. That ad was poorly produced and its resolution and quality altered. It reflects poorly on our group and makes it look bad in the presence of other ads which look far better.   That’s not what we paid for.

P2 surely has the patience of a saint. He again replied nicely, and even threw in a week of free ad space. I don’t agree with that, however. If the problem with the ad was our fault, then yes, we should do whatever we can do correct that. However, we can’t give free ads to everyone who is less than satisfied with how the ad comes out. Many people would use such a policy to gain free advertising on a regular basis.

P2’s reply:

We don’t change a thing about ads that are submitted with the following exceptions:

a) If an ad is at a resolution other than 300 dpi, I will resample it (this should only have a positive effect, and wouldn’t have produced what we’re talking about here, and I don’t recall whether that was necessary with your ad or not)

b) I will sometimes adjust brightness and/or contrast if it appears that an ad will be too dark (this was definitely not the case with yours).

I will be happy to add a week to your ad run and see if we can’t resolve this issue for you, but I assure you that nothing about your ad was altered.

P2

I don’t like it when advertising clients are unhappy. I eagerly make changes when they are requested, from ad placements, to page placements, etc. I will try my best to accommodate clients. Why? Well, not only do I want them to continue to purchase ad space, I want them to be successful. I want those who advertise with the M2 to have flourishing businesses.

But if someone is going to write nasty e-mails to defame us professionally, I am not so willing to assist. In my opinion, the kiddie gloves should have come off when Eren said we altered the ad. Oh em gee! *insert sarcasm* Those of us at the M2 are immersed in a conspiracy against the Elf Clan! How wicked of us…

Why on earth would we alter an ad? I have no professional or personal ties to anyone in the Elven community and neither does P2.

So my response was not as nice as P2’s:

I compared the ad that ran in the M2 versus the ad you sent. Yes, there is a remarkable difference. I then compared the Farhaven (on the same page as yours) original ad versus what ran in the paper. There too was a remarkable difference.

I’m sorry you are dissatisfied. If you had come to us politely with these issues, we would have bent over backwards to assist you in discovering the problem and fixing it. But accusing us of favoritism (how is that possible when the Eledwhen column writes about the Elf Clan frequently?) and then going so far as to say we altered the quality of the ad only means we won’t be working with you anymore.

Keep in mind that the M2 has 35,000 readers, far more than any other publication in SL. With the very popular Eledwhen Wonders column, a large segment of that readership is the population YOU are trying to reach out to.

One last thing, I assure you that I have absolutely no reservations in telling the entire SL community what a disdainful, disparaging, mean, hateful and rude person you are.

She heatedly replied, under the impression that I was threatening her (wtfbbq?). She also seemed to be rather clueless as to who owns the Metaverse Messenger. *scratches head at that one before adding Eren’s email to this blog post*

LOL Kristen, since I now have a copy of your email… and the unprofessional attitude shown there, there are only three things I have further to say to you:

1. As an advertiser, I have a right to contact your staff with misgivings about the professionalism (or lack thereof) of your staff.
2. Threatening an advertiser with with “I have absolutely no reservations in telling the entire SL community what a disdainful, disparaging, mean, hateful and rude person you are” is about as vile and unprofesional as a person can get, an only serves to cement and verify my prior opinion of your staff.
3. Your drama queen attitude and threatening manner gives my ne reason to believe that my initial impression regarding your zine was incorrect.
4.  I will be forwarding a copy of your email to other members of the Metaverse Messenger for review.

Be advised that if you should decide to take this private business matter public… my response will be put publicly publish a copy of your email.  If that is how you wish to run your business… you will find there are repercussions of such attitudes.

Had you responded in a professional, business manner, we could have resolved this issue.  As it is, I will contact Phoenix and inform him there shall be no further business involved between our agents.  I have nothing to be ashamed of in my initial missive.  I am nothing more than a dissatisfied customer with reason to question paper policies.  Welcome to the business world.  Your attitude madam, is shameful.

Oi! I’m laughing… “…had you responded in a professional, business manner…” Perhaps she/he means I should have behaved like him/her?

*sighs* I will climb to the top of the highest building to shout out the fact that I don’t know everything there is to know about business. But I do know that if you have an issue you want someone to fix, the surest way to sabotage yourself is by being ugly to whoever it is you are dealing with.

Eren should have, could have wrote, “Hi Phoenix. I was not happy with the way the Elf Clan ad came out. Would you please work with me in improving the appearance of the ad? Also, I noted that another Elven community was SOTW. How does that work? How can I encourage the M2 to cover Elf Clan more?”

We would have jumped at the opportunity to assist someone who addressed in that manner. We don’t expect anyone to bend down and kiss our feet because of what we do. But we DO work very hard and producing a paper every week.

So remember, a bit of “nice” in your business dealings can go a long, long way.

Regards,

Katt

New look

I’m making some changes to this blog, and the changes involve more than just the way the site looks. I intend to post entries on a more regular basis, but there will be more SL business-related posts, and less personal ones.

Stay tuned. :)

A day to remember

The first Day of Remembrance is finished with for this year. I’m elated at how well it went.

Personally, it was a bit sad at times. I thought of Ginny, missed her, and felt an overwhelming hole in my heart where she used to be. But then someone would IM me to thank me for coming up with the idea for the day, we’d get to talking, and I would feel like I had made a new friend.

What a perfect way to celebrate the precious life of my friend.

I want to thank Dusty, Phaylen, and Poid for all of the hard work they put it. Because of work obligations, I wasn’t as involved in organizing the event as I originally planned to be, but this trio of hard working characters (and I do mean characters) took the ball and ran with it, creating a stunning setting for a glorious day of remembering.

I would also like to thank Evie, the builders, scripters, the musicians and DJs. Without them, the day would have been lacking. And lastly, my thanks to all of those who helped to publicize the day by posting the press release I sent out.

I’m looking forward to next year.

SL Memorial Day

Linden Lab will sponsor a Second Life memorial day, a Day of Remembrance (DoR,) on April 17 from 6am to 11pm SLT. The day is meant to give residents the opportunity to celebrate the lives of those once a part of SL who are now deceased.

The DoR is centered around the New Orleans tradition of the Jazz Funeral and the Second Line. Rather than a sad, solemn affair, a New Orleans funeral celebrates life with music and parading.

Parades are scheduled for 6am, 11am, 5pm, and 11pm SLT, giving residents in every time zone the opportunity to partake. The parade will depart from the landing point in Big Easy. Participants can select to twirl parasols, play musical instruments or carry pictures as they meander through the sim, ending the caravan near the sim border.

The day is also jam packed with a variety of DJs, live music and other acts. DJ HarleyMC Homewood will start the day off at 12 midnight, then DJ Gaidion Priestman will take the stream at 1am. DJ sarcophilus will pick up the mic at 2am and entertain the crowd until 4am, when live musician Junivers Stockholm will take over at 5am.

DJ Zeenat Mumfuzz will spin tunes during the first parade at 6am SLT for those who wish to listen to the stream instead of the in-world instruments. Mumfuzz will then be followed by live musician Greennote Freenote at 7am, DJ Ricken Flow at 8am, Kourosh Eusebio at 9am and live singer Jaynine Scarborough at 10am.

Another parade winds its way through Biloxi at 11am, followed by music by foxyflwr Cure at 12 noon. Live musician Mak Marjeta will carry the stream starting at 1pm, with the live act ChangHigh Trinity Sister Fireshow of Light, Life and Love performing at 2pm.

Pianist Kipling Writer will entertain the crowd at 3pm SLT, and musician Lonnie Knight will take over at 4pm. DJ Jaysen Katscher will provide the music during the parade at 5pm, and vocalist Winston Ackland will grab the mic at 6pm SLT.

Live musician Kaklick Martin is slated for the 7 o’clock hour, and DJ Madame Maracas of RadioRadio will share her extensive collection of jazz tunes from 8 to 11pm, when the final parade will start. DJ Sean Clancy will provide the music during that parade.

Various memorials allow residents to bid farewell to those they’ve loved and lost in SL. One such memorial will donate funds to American Cancer Society’s Relay for Life. A pile of prim building materials litters the ground.

Those who wish to participate should simply click on a prim in that pile. Once a donation is made, that prim will fly into position in the temple. All donations go straight to Relay for Life, to help fight cancer.

The Interactive Memorial Garden gives residents the opportunity to plant flowers in remembrance of the SL friends who have died in their first lives. To plant a flower, residents just click on one of the grey memorial signs.

A choice of orange poppy, red corncockle, pink day lily or purple orchid will then be offered. After a selection is made, the avatar name of the deceased should be typed in open chat.

The Interactive Memorial Temple allows residents a place to honor those lost to them. Benches are provided for those who wish to sit and watch as flower candles fly up in the sky. Those who wish to light their own candles should simply type in: /111 NameHere. A candle will be added to the pond, eventually floating up into the sky.

As of press time, other attractions are planned but currently unfinished. For more information, visit http://sites.google.com/a/dustylinden.com/info-day-of-remembrance/Home or The Metaverse Messenger website at www.metaversemessenger.com.

Honey, I’m home

I have postponing writing this entry, because I wanted to create a mixed reality film to post with it. But I’m tired of sitting on my news.

As I write this, I keep sitting back to look out the open window next to me. The wind chime moves gently in a spring-like breeze as it hangs from a tree with little sprigs of green blooming. Fresh blades of grass are pushing up through the earth, and birds are serenading the cats that pretend not to see them. I’m home.

A few days before Christmas, my kids and I moved out of the crappy rental unit we were living in, and moved into our very own home. It’s a three bedroom manufactured home on two acres. While it’s out in the country, I am exactly five minutes from town.

The home sits in the middle of the property, with an acre each in front of and behind it. Trees abound and shield the house from prying eyes on every side. It is so private that I can walk around naked, if I choose, inside and outside of the house.

It has a fenced yard so the big dog (”Puppy”) can run around, and a fenced in pasture behind the house. The previous owners set up a rail car (what you see on trains) as a tack room slash storage shed. I put some hay in there for the cats, and that is where we feed them.

At the end of the driveway is a large grassy area. This is where I will put a tree in memory of Ginny Talamasca, along with a flower garden. The back pasture is very overgrown, and I hope to install a living lawnmower there sometime soon.. hopefully, a donkey.

The house has a wide porch on it, and that’s where I enjoy my breakfast. The interior is relatively simple, with the front door opening to a small entry way with the living room behind that. The kitchen and dining room (which I’m actually using as my office) are to the left of the living room. There are two bedrooms (for the kids) to the right of the living room, and the master bedroom and bath are on the other side of the dining room. There is a laundry room off of the kitchen, and that’s also where the back door is.

It’s secluded here, without being overly isolated. I can walk around naked, inside and out, without worrying that the neighbors will come over to visit. So far, I only have a few chairs and an entertainment center in the living room. Hopefully, I’ll be able to buy new furniture sometime soon. But I’m in no hurry. It will be fun to take my time picking and choosing furniture.

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A Hamlet heist

In September of 2006, Hamlet Linden (now Hamlet Au) sent me a message to ask if I would compose a list of people I thought were influential, and include my reasons for adding them to the list. He said his editor needed the article by such and such date, so I had it ready for him by then. He also asked for a picture of my avatar, so I included that in what I sent to him as well.

I didn’t agree to write the list right off. I spent some time thinking about it first. Many SL residents dislike lists, especially lists they are excluded from gracing. However, I felt certain that only a small number of SL residents would actually read Hamlet’s article on whatever web site it was published on. So I consented to write it.

When I gave the list to Hamlet, that was the last I heard about it, until I got an IM from the builder of the M2 office building.

[15:56]  Midtown Bienenstich: Hi Katt, is your land in Sido set to group?
[15:58]  Katt Kongo: Yes, it is
[15:58]  Midtown Bienenstich: Great!
[15:58]  Midtown Bienenstich: Btw..
[15:58]  Midtown Bienenstich: Congrats on your now published image in SL’s Official Guide :D
[15:58]  Katt Kongo: huh?
[15:58]  Midtown Bienenstich: You’re in the new LL book
[15:59]  Katt Kongo: Oooooo
[15:59]  Midtown Bienenstich: haha, you didn’t know?!
[15:59]  Katt Kongo: Nope lol
[15:59]  Katt Kongo: me personally, the M2 or both?
[15:59]  Midtown Bienenstich: Your face is now in every Barnes & Noble ‘cross the country :)
[16:00]  Midtown Bienenstich: Just you, with the success of the M2.
[16:00]  Midtown Bienenstich: .. and a short paragraph about your accomplishments
[16:00]  Midtown Bienenstich: and a list of people that whom you think are “rising SL influence-rs”
[16:00]  Katt Kongo: oh the fucker
[16:00]  Midtown Bienenstich: Lol?
[16:01]  Katt Kongo: He told me that was for an article
[16:01]  Katt Kongo: not a book
[16:01]  Midtown Bienenstich: What is Micheal .. something?
[16:01]  Katt Kongo: Huh?
[16:02]  Midtown Bienenstich: The name of the person who fooled ya :D
[16:02]  Katt Kongo: Hamlet
[16:02]  Midtown Bienenstich: haha!
[16:02]  Midtown Bienenstich: Lol, Katt.
[16:03]  Katt Kongo: :(
[16:03]  Midtown Bienenstich: Don’t feel too bad.
[16:03]  Midtown Bienenstich: It WAS a pretty picture :D
[16:03]  Katt Kongo: Picture????
[16:04]  Midtown Bienenstich: Yes, Katt.
[16:04]  Midtown Bienenstich: You’re one of the 15 people named under the Chapter on Real Residents
[16:04]  Midtown Bienenstich: essentially the 15 most commonly heard of residents :)
[16:05]  Katt Kongo: with my picture? rl or just SL?
[16:05]  Midtown Bienenstich: just SL
[16:06]  Midtown Bienenstich: The only reference to your RL, was that you spent 15 years or sumthin’ in journalism college.
[16:06]  Katt Kongo: where did you get your copy of it? I want to see it
[16:06]  Midtown Bienenstich: I was in Barnes & Noble today.
[16:06]  Midtown Bienenstich: So, I perused a copy
[16:06]  Midtown Bienenstich: Like, I said..
[16:06]  Midtown Bienenstich: you’ve gone national! :D
[16:07]  Katt Kongo: heh
[16:08]  Katt Kongo: well, maybe I’ll be excited once I see it
[16:08]  Midtown Bienenstich: kinda funny
[16:08]  Katt Kongo: what’s the title of it?
[16:08]  Midtown Bienenstich is typing…
[16:08]  Midtown Bienenstich: your face was used as part of the page outline
[16:09]  Midtown Bienenstich: So, it appears like every 3 pages xD

[16:09]  Midtown Bienenstich: Title is
[16:09]  Katt Kongo: omfg
[16:09]  Midtown Bienenstich: Second Life: The Official Guide
[16:09]  Midtown Bienenstich is typing…
[16:10]  Katt Kongo: how much was it?
[16:10]  Midtown Bienenstich: $34.95
[16:11]  Katt Kongo: omg
[16:11]  Katt Kongo: I better get a cut of that
[16:11]  Midtown Bienenstich: Of course you won’t silly :P
[16:11]  Katt Kongo: damn lol
[16:11]  Midtown Bienenstich: LL says in their TOS, that they can use us as part of their media bandwagon :)
[16:12]  Midtown Bienenstich: I for one think it’s great!
[16:12]  Midtown Bienenstich: I know that the printed page is something common for you..
[16:12]  Midtown Bienenstich: but, this event is a token of your work here is NOT in vain! :D
[16:12]  Midtown Bienenstich: Oh, and..
[16:13]  Midtown Bienenstich: Expect more IMs from random ppl :P
[16:14]  Katt Kongo: LOL
[16:15]  Midtown Bienenstich: k, Katt.
[16:15]  Midtown Bienenstich checks watch
[16:15]  Midtown Bienenstich: Yep, it’s official
[16:15]  Katt Kongo: hey, thank you so much for letting me know
[16:15]  Midtown Bienenstich: Your 15 minutes of fame start now :P
[16:16]  Midtown Bienenstich: Sure, anytime!

I was never told that the list or my picture were going into the book that Hamlet was writing. I never signed a release form for either item. That list, which I thought would only be seen by maybe 300 people, has been read by thousands.

In Second Life, I cannot build, script or create clothing. The only thing I have been able to do and do well within the SL client is create a unique and, some would say, beautiful image for my avatar. My avatar is part of the branding for the Metaverse Messenger. Katt Kongo is the Metaverse Messenger. He took that image, my creation, and used it for his own financial gain, without asking.

Sure. If he had asked, I would have said yes to the use of my picture. I would not have, however, written the list of who I considered to be influential residents.

I have held on to my anger over this for a very long time. My friends advised me to sue Hamlet, and I very seriously considered doing so. But in the end, there is one thing more important than teaching him, and anyone else who would steal from SL’s content creators, which is more important:

When I look around my house, I want to see things I EARNED. I do not wish to own things which I bought with money someone else “earned,” even if they perhaps did more stealing than earning.

To me, this is a good example of the disregard that Linden Lab has for the content created by SL residents. You may think this is a tad unfair. But let me stress that I strongly believe in what Linden Lab is doing, and what they have accomplished thus far. I feel that I have never met a group of people with such talent and vision than those at Linden Lab.

But just because I believe in them does not mean I will pretend that they are a perfect entity. They have their faults, and the two most obvious to me are customer service and protection of creator rights.